But anyway, give me a break Heartrun. Everyone knows that every avatar on the isle of Lesbos is a horny guy pretending to be a lesbian.

I guess you could say my online fantasy relationship ‘worked’. At first we sent eachother fake pictures and revealed fake ages, but as the months went by, the confessions came out. I am a 19 year old girl, and my boyfriend [ who is now my 'RL' boyfriend] revealed he is 18. only a year younger, but he was not “mr hotshot” in the pictures he showed. Instead, he looked a normal guy. Athletically figured, normal face, normal scruffy hair and some vague morning shadow.
I, however, and not “Ms playboy” I’d revealed to be. But I look a normal girl. a girl with your everyday insecurities, slim figure, blonde hair. [ as oppose to the black hair, pierced up, big breasted 6-pack ab girl with her back arched on a bed]. but somehow, after 2 years of being with him and meeting up, showing our affection.. i kind of miss it being like that, and playing the role of the whorish beauty i was. I had fallen inlove with the man of my dreams, and so many people envy our love. and i know how much he means to me, with all honesty and how he treats me with such a gentle touch… but.. for some reason, I feel strange.
Sometimes i get jelous of him around other girls in-game. I feel like if thats how we met, then he could find someone else, too. but i have no “playboy hottie envy me” pictures to show them, and i feel i am “no competition”.. but i know in my heart he is not intrested, and he knows it too. we trust eachother with everything inside of us. but sometimes i find myself lying to him about little things about myself. “gosh my thong is on too tight” – little things like that to turn him on, when i really dont want to, but feel the “need to”. Its like sometimes i DO want the fantasy relationship we had, but i am so inlove with who HE is… but i was inlove with who i was as well. the sex-craved girl with the perfect body. what’s wrong with me?
- cheekie Aero

1. You are in love with a woman who is a lesbian. What would happen if she found out you were a man? (see 2)

2. You are in love with a man who is also pretending to be a woman. Consider yourself lucky. I know you didn’t think you were attracted to men, but you just hadn’t met the right man until just now! Which makes you exactly like the hypothetical lesbian in #1. Time to run away with your man and live happily ever after! What’s that? You don’t like men? Well neither does the woman in #1.

Sorry to sound so harsh. But my problem here is that you broke out the “L-word” in your email. That makes me think you’re taking this fantasy relationship seriously.

Even online relationships that are based on truth and common experience are on shaky ground to begin with. Believe me, I’ve been thru a couple. But online relationships benefit from the element of fantasy… You can fill in all the little details (the burps, farts, and annoying habits that would normally turn you off) with the picture of perfection. Anyone in an honest online Love-affair with the “ideal” partner should rush to meet the person as fast as possible, to make sure you’re in love with the actual person, and not just the prince charming in your mind’s eye.

Which brings us to you. Your relationship is *not* based on honesty. Which isn’t to say it’s a lie… but at best it’s based on a fantasy. Your lesbian fantasy.

It will not work to tell her that you are a man. If she is a lesbian, you will be a liar in her eyes. If she is a man, like you — with a lesbian fetish, you will only ruin the fantasy for the both of you.

So my advice to you is this: if you see your relationship as a fantasy then continue on in that mode.

If you are “in Love” with a capital “L” and feel guilty and some obligation to her… then end the relationship… because you have started a relationship on the wrong foot, and it is based on a lie. For your next relationship, be honest from the outset… and *maybe* your online relationship *might* work.

Then again, your next relationship will still be based on online fantasies. Any love and obligation you have to your wife and daughter is probably 100 times more real. You might try saving your love for them, and quitting SL. Maybe try exploring your sexual fantasies with your wife through roleplay and whatnot.