Comments on: Op/Ed: Romance me, damn it!

By: Villain Baroque

Villain Baroque — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 03:59:54 +0000

Hi Linda,

maybe you just had bad luck untill now. My Second Life experience is totally different from yours. I have found a girlfriend in SL with whom I am together for almost a year now. Together we founded “Love me tender”, a SL business that specializes in “Love & Romance” products (Visit us at sim “Rockje”). In this business I get contact to many people with romantic stories in SL, people, who believe to have found True Love in SL. A lot of them are together with their partners for several month and the stories they tell me never rank around SEX, but about feelings. I’d say, as in RL, sex is a wonderful and necessary part of love, but get’s boring, if it’s the only thing that connects you and your partner. Love and romance means time-consuming activities. A lot of people seem to be hesitant to invest their time in that – shame on them.

By: Pounamu Kohime

Pounamu Kohime — Sat, 27 Oct 2007 02:05:36 +0000

Oh man, people, lighten up. I can’t believe the vitriol of some of these responses! Just because you’re anonymous commentators doesn’t mean you can spew some of the junk you have in these comments – calling her a gold digger?? And the guy who rambled on about ‘pigs and bitches’? Where’ve you been hanging, dude? I mean, honestly, with sewers like that for minds you people have no business commenting about love and romance, lol!

I thought Linda’s piece was a humorous, cutting even satirical comment on dating, sex and r/ships in SL…she’s got every right to desire romance from both her RL and SL boyfriends – hell, I do! AND I’m not a gold digger or porno slut, I’m a normal gal NOT looking for love or even sex in SL…just friendship and role play in the combat sims.

But as some have said…you gotta kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince, and honestly, I wouldn’t look for my prince in SL. There are lovely decent people in SL, and there are certifiable psychos…just hope that your bullshit meter is working so you can distinguish quickly between the two!

I’ve often found that when I’m not looking…that’s when something magical happens, sometimes right beneath your nose, with a friend you’ve had for ages and ages….I completely DON’T trust anyone who comes on too strong too quickly, I wait and hang with someone a LOT of times before I even think about a possible romance.

I prefer to be single in SL anyway, there’s no expectations on you then.

Good Luck Linda…! Keep writing hon….

By: Barefoot Ballinger

Barefoot Ballinger — Thu, 20 Sep 2007 17:08:52 +0000

Flaming aside, my experiences have been much the same. I love to romance – Learning about someone, what makes them tick, exploring, dancing.. it’s what I enjoy. But it’s not what I get. Most of the women I have gone out with go for the crotch within an hour or less. The ones that didn’t have become good friends, and romance has followed because of it.

By: shockwave yareach

shockwave yareach — Tue, 04 Sep 2007 13:11:38 +0000

First of all, if you want a Real relationship, SL isn’t the place to find it. Your comments about the people you’ve been with and what they do in RL are telling – why do you even care what they do in RL? If you want to play, then play. If you are looking for virtual good times then don’t bring reality into the picture. If you want a real guy in your real life, you’ve no choice but to unplug and get out into the real world more. You can’t download a lover, and those origami sextoy designs are worthless (and cause papercuts if you arent’ careful).

Good VR loving starts with some friends who chat a lot and hang out together a fair bit. Once you both understand what each other wants in VR, you can rent a skybox for the weekend and have a good time. And if you both write longwinded descriptions, have a can of Red Bull handy in RL. But you have to be with people you know and trust before you have anything but a VR one night stand.

By: Luca Vasilopita

Luca Vasilopita — Mon, 03 Sep 2007 05:06:57 +0000

Ironically, this works both ways. I’ve been almost a digital celibite since my last potential partner and I went cold in everything but the small talk zone (I didn’t actually need sex… but it seems that the relationship did). Since that time I’ve tried; dating, one night stands, M/s relationships, and eventually I got roped into a combat group. It would be nice if I could have with somebody what I used to… but given the fact that I’ve become weirdly committed to this group, I doubt that’ll happen. People can’t see past the fact that “This guy’s just a war minded otaku” or something, so all I get is ‘witty’ one liners from ‘girls’ who want a roll in the hay.

Best thing to do is to not look, not even try… wait until it comes to you. It may take forever, it may take 23 and a half minutes.

By: Melissa Yeuxdoux

Melissa Yeuxdoux — Mon, 03 Sep 2007 03:34:05 +0000

“…my real life boyfriend fails to deliver romance every day, and I still haven’t dumped his sorry ass.”

With expectations like that, I doubt you’ll have much luck with any actual person for very long.

By: Nicholaz Beresford

Nicholaz Beresford — Sun, 02 Sep 2007 19:06:53 +0000

Quote ))
1) Not in SL.
2) In SL but not *seeking* a relationship there.
3) In SL but *already* in a relationship there.
((

Just like what I hear in RL

By: Maria Leveaux

Maria Leveaux — Sun, 02 Sep 2007 17:31:26 +0000

Your more obvious Charms aside, I am Not sure what made you think you could find Romance on Line when it is all but Dead in the Real World. The added layer of Anonymity is even less conducive to bringing out the Romantic in your man.

They say you have to Kiss a Lot of Toads before you Find your Prince. I think that definately goes Double for SL. It’s Not Impossible, One Lady friend of mine has Found a Real prince and will be Marrying him shortly IRL so there is hope for you as well.

Just take a little time to Consider the inducements you offer. If you are Attracting the wrong type of Fish, you are using the wrong sort of Bait.

Maria.

By: Second Lulz Vigilante

Second Lulz Vigilante — Sun, 02 Sep 2007 17:25:50 +0000

@General Cronon

“They think that making fun will make them become notices, since they are not important enough or one of their rl children don’t have enough cancer in them, to get a spot to write the herald.”

You’ve got a lot to learn about a troll’s motivations, Skippy. We don’t make mean comments for popularity. We make mean comments mostly just for the sake of being mean and sometimes to point out the illogic of a situation. Like the situation described by the OP, for example.

By: General Cronon

General Cronon — Sun, 02 Sep 2007 15:00:26 +0000

First of all, Most of your comments suck(yes this goes out to all of you false comedians). Society wants you to think that relationships is that way to go. American Society wants you to think relationships is what you have to do(Note the have to guys). Relationships is not what you need…..why not have a relationship with yourself internally, then create a short time bond with another person. Have sex with them, if that is what you enjoy. I mean sex can be romance too, not always listen to idoits that comment and follow the american society. And no, I am not anti-american…that would be impossible since I am an american, but that is how american society works.

Basicly relationships aren’t always the key. Start off with a friend. Afterwards if that doesn’t succeed. Leave. In the middle of that time period, please have sex with them be passion enjoy each others company then move on, With this the world would be a lot more easier and bring us closer to peace.

I know, this comment its well written, but 50 cent’s raps aren’t well written and he makes more money then you LOL so, in turn stop hatin.

Linda Don’t worry, they just comment to mean things to make them look popular. They think that making fun will make them become notices, since they are not important enough or one of their rl children don’t have enough cancer in them, to get a spot to write the herald. so in turn they are upset.

It’s not about black or white cause we human. I hope we see the light before it ruined. – 2pac