Comments on: Marriage in SL After 8 Months

By: i wonder

i wonder — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 01:51:23 +0000

I am just seeking advice and I know I will get both ends of it. I am heavily involved with someone on SL; sexually. There are non sexual times but it has been mostly sexual. We are planning to meet in RL soon. Yes for sex. I know he is not looking into a relationship but I am hoping for it.

I should wake up soon right?

By: Thecla Hax

Thecla Hax — Fri, 02 May 2008 05:32:02 +0000

I’ve thought a lot about online relationships and finally wrote some stuff down recently. My essay, “Love, Virtually,” is now posted at theclahax.blogspot.com.

The people behind the avatars are real, and have real feelings. It’s easy to get swept away in the intensity of feeling when you are new to online interaction. But the relationships are real. They’re just different in some ways than relationships we have when we can see the other person’s real face.

By: peluda

peluda — Sun, 02 Mar 2008 16:04:17 +0000

i can only say one thing to the ones with a rl relation : rub some more firstworldbelly !
sl relations NEVER last , the game is only 4-6 years old so nobody who is thinking clearly can say sl relationships are comparable to real life. don’t make me laugh please.

By: Auggie Eagleburger

Auggie Eagleburger — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 15:55:06 +0000

3 word: Just Say No

By: Penance

Penance — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 08:15:30 +0000

Goddamn broken space bar.

By: Penance "Penny" Sautereau

Penance "Penny" Sautereau — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 08:14:56 +0000

@Cai Pirinha

Um….. no. Gorereadthingsand payCAREFUL attention. I have no problem with people disagreeing with me when it’s doneintelligently and with legitimate intent to fosterdebate. Only disagreements I take issue with are from trolling nitwits making a big stink for the sole purpose of trying to stir shit up. So uh, nice try there, but EHN, you don’t get a copy of the home game.

By: anon

anon — Tue, 22 Jan 2008 05:33:06 +0000

“If we’re such losers why waste time on us? Why bother with us? ”

Because it’s fun, stupid! The more invested you are in your e-world the harder you fall when someone breaks your immersion.

By: Lacie Babenco

Lacie Babenco — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 21:10:16 +0000

Partnership or marriage in SL is somewhat of a reflection of who we are no matter if it’s virtual or real. Some see it as light and trivial (easy come/easy go comes to mind) while others take it as seriously as a RL commitment. No soapbox here – I had a failed SL partnership for many reasons that were entirely of my own doing.

My only advice to those in SL is make sure it’s what you and your potential partner really desire, rather than part of some illusion or fantasy that you’re not capable of seeing through. If it’s honest and feels right, I say go for it but don’t try to fool yourself if it’s for ulterior motives.

Like the world needs more divorces – real or in SL.

By: Siobhan OFlynn

Siobhan OFlynn — Sun, 20 Jan 2008 01:35:43 +0000

My RL husband and I didn’t meet in SL, but we did meet on the internet. I’ve been in Second Life since August 2003 and I introduced him to SL in Jan. 2006. We got married (in real life) in March of 2005 and SL married at the Linden’s Mass Valentine’s Wedding in Feb. 2006. We’re still married in both RL and SL. Since our RL wedding didn’t involve a gown, flowers or anything fancy, I was thrilled to have the opportunity to do it up right in SL. It was every bit as special and romantic as I’d hoped and made Valentine’s Day 2006 truly memorable.

By: Cai Pirinha

Cai Pirinha — Sat, 19 Jan 2008 19:41:41 +0000

@ Penny: Your last comment sounds pointless; people were asked by the author to give their opinion. But looking at your articles it seems that you can’t deal with other people’s opinions anyways (unless they agree with you, of course).

I do realize that SL can give people with severe difficulties (think of disfigurements or disabilities) the potential to engage socially with other people on a more even level than possible in real life.

However, I largely agree with the above comment from SqueezeOne Pow: Most of the people that see their SL marriages as serious relationships are nothing more than RL losers that are lacking the social ability or maturity to deal with the real life and hence try to escape into a virtual environment to compensate for this. And that is simply pathetic.