Comments on: Adoption in Second Life

By: Shattered Moonchild

Shattered Moonchild — Fri, 31 Jul 2015 19:54:58 +0000

My best friend from RL carries a prim baby everywhere in SL. (She has a different version for every species she is.) I asked her why it’s so important, and she explained that as a housewife she is very rarely apart from her real baby, so seeing herself in Second Life without him is simply too jarring.

I don’t know much about pregnancy simulations, or about long-term SL couples in general. It seems like a lot of people never get that far anyway. Maybe pretending to breed is a weird surrealistic celebration ritual for their not having been stung by Second Life’s infamous relationship drama.

I am slightly familiar with adoption, though I wouldn’t want to try it myself. It’s not so strange to be emotionally stuck as a child, especially if one’s real childhood never panned out. In fact, many of the other child avatars I’ve seen mention trauma-inflicted D.I.D. in their profiles as well. So for an alter frozen at a young age, RL can feel more like a mandatory roleplay session in which they must spend 9-5 Monday through Friday pretending to identify with the body’s age and sex. It can be a relief to log onto a synthetic world and finally be seen the same way you see yourself. The synthetic families are simply an extension of that, giving them another shot at the happy childhood and loving caregivers they should have gotten in the real world. That’s at least what they seem to aim for much of the time. Personally, I wouldn’t trust that to pan out either. I mean, if your own flesh and blood took advantage of you and wrecked your life, how can you trust someone hundreds of miles away whose offline life can be easily lied about to raise you correctly? And even if the online parents are competent, how can a mentally scarred kid-alter know how to act like a non-mentally-scarred kid for them? I’d think that would be as exhausting as pretending to be a grownup! So to me it seems like both sides are setting themselves up for disappointment at best, but that’s just my personal cynicism.

By: JamieSox

JamieSox — Sat, 14 Jun 2014 14:44:46 +0000

@Bran
I know exactly how you feel. I have been around since 2007 and never felt the urge to adopt children, or raise sl kids .
…Untill i met my present partner. She is just wonderfull and opened my eyes to so many things i have never experienced before .
She allready had prim babies, 2 of them , but mainly to use as a model for the clothes she designs and sells inworld.Together we decided to adopt a av child, a person we met inworld and was willing to play our 3-yr old daughter in there.
Together we grow, and experience grief and happyness now.
We are truly a team and complete eachother in so many ways.
Now we decided to also adopt a mature daughter , of course after we talked it over with all family members , and things couldn’t be better for us .
Views and opinions may change in time, just saying.
At first i was repulsed also by the idea of sl pregnancy, but now i can see the need for it.
Now maybe sometime i can also get used to fake vampires , lycans ,furries, neko’s , fairies, elfs Goreans and other fairytale creatures out there, since they still make me barf and i try to avoid that crap as much as possible, since i also am an adult and do not believe in werewolves, vampires and other useless fantasy creatures.

By: Bran Alter

Bran Alter — Sat, 22 Feb 2014 02:23:36 +0000

SL pregnancy and SL children creep me the hell out. 7 years on SL and I still don’t get it at all.

By: Feyda

Feyda — Tue, 28 Jan 2014 01:56:11 +0000

i truly believe that female avi’s with huge breasts and butts are really men in RL. Just my opinion.

By: Reader

Reader — Wed, 04 Apr 2012 22:30:54 +0000

@Lady

You are trying to use rational and cogent thought processes with a “person of interest” who is systematically being kicked off the interwebs because of his own blind, misgivings.

Don’t bother..

By: Lady Brightstorm

Lady Brightstorm — Wed, 04 Apr 2012 11:48:03 +0000

@ Tux
Let me first start by saying that us adults..myself included..find sl as MORE than a game. Not saying it is not a game…Just MORE than that. I am a mother in RL. I take care of my child and most of my friends are mothers as well. I have met the man of my dreams on SL..he is now my RL Husband and we are living a happy ever efter. SO yes…there are those who play female but are male and vice versa, that is part of the game. But then there is something that SL does for some people, it gives them a chance to experince things that they would not otherwise be able to. For example, a man who can not walk and is stuck to a chair for the rest of his life, can move and run and walk and jump on SL..its amazing for him or her, so why down them for that?
When it comes to the topic of SL babies….that is one i am pro for. My husband has, before he and i were even together, gotten snipped. We can not have an RL child between us unless we adopt but we do not know if our parenting will cause fights with us or if we can actually do well. So what can we do….SL offers us this chance to test out how we would react to each other, and not only that but allows me to have that experience of being pregnant all over again. Those nay sayers, maybe looking on both sides of the fence might widen your view instead of seeing the dead grass at your feet.

By: ballstothis

ballstothis — Mon, 07 Feb 2011 07:57:08 +0000

omfg woman has bigger than normal belly wow great news and next week we report on dog loses a few hairs on the carpet

By: marilyn murphy

marilyn murphy — Sat, 29 Jan 2011 16:43:20 +0000

i just never pictured sl as a reflection of real life at all. i never had a dwelling for my avatar that would have a kitchen or a bathroom, for instance. i would live in a tree or a mushroom and enjoyed the lack of restrictions on possibilities.
people can choose to come to second life and live a version of rl if they wish to. when u can live in a mayan temple, or an old roman pallazo, and you choose to live on a street with split level homes and have the baby experience…. i am not sure what that says, but to me its just ugh.

By: Gundel Gaukelei

Gundel Gaukelei — Sat, 29 Jan 2011 15:32:15 +0000

@Pappy Enoch: barf bag? What am that?

Let me guess: Holler Airlines – only involves a couple of haystacks and a catapult?

By: General Drama

General Drama — Fri, 28 Jan 2011 00:07:03 +0000

At0m0,
Make a prim baby physical and give it a follower script with one of those particle chains like the gorfags use. Little brat will follow you everywhere, soiled and bloody diaper and all.