Comments on: Kicking Second Life Addiction – A Life Outside The Grid

By: Ivy

Ivy — Sun, 28 Feb 2016 09:06:55 +0000

Deleted my SL and my alt. I’m never looking back. The site is filled with fakes who won’t voice or show images of who they are because their ego rather live the lie, or they or disassociating, or lost in la la land. I know I was sucked into the false “feel good” feelings and instant gratification of buying useless crap or having a fan fake life causes. But half the women are men or trannies, or liars/sociopaths. The rest are just generally screwed up people – people unhappy with their headspace or bodies etc. Many SL people failed in RL or don’t have the guts to manifest their reality in, well…reality.

Good riddance to loneliness, false friends, heartache, stupidity and most of all wasting time. The time wasted is thee worst. The sooner we understand our intrinsic value as individuals, the sooner we can get back to nature, humanity and each other, for real.

By: tony cinco

tony cinco — Fri, 11 Sep 2015 03:09:06 +0000

Sl is a harmful addictive… thing. It’s caused numerous problems in my relationship and continues causing issues. My wife is addicted and will spend more hours a day interacting with fake nonexistant people than she will with me. I keep hoping she will realize how harmful it is to both of us and give it up. But i dont see that day ever coming.

By: Eric

Eric — Tue, 28 Apr 2015 05:24:29 +0000

I believe that most people go through what you have gone through to one extent or another. I have made some really great and close friends in sl, but most of them either log on less or simply do not log on at all. What I also find is that most people eventually break the second life addiction, and they find a balance – or they simply cease to log in at all.

I have no patience for drama in any form whatsoever in second life, which is maybe why I steer clear of large groups/cliques in second life, and I have ceased involving myself in sex or romance. There are aspects of second life that are emotionally and spiritually draining. Involving yourself deeply or intensely (sex or not) with people who are very emotionally unstable or have rocky rl’s is a recipe for disaster – and unfortunately sl is stuffed full of those people.

The ones who stick around usually find a creative or constructive way to exist in second life, and who are perfectly fine being on their own. They also come into sl for relaxation and they tread carefully. They also realize that anyone who they meet may simply vanish at any point, and for any reason one can imagine.

By: Steve Taikowski

Steve Taikowski — Tue, 05 Nov 2013 16:43:44 +0000

I am totally relating to your story! As I last week lost three dear friends because I let a young man back onto my sim who was on their “never allowed back list” I really had my heart broken as I am a soft hearted person who actually kinda loves his friends, esp the young kids who like sons and daughters to me. I had to laugh at one part of your story where you said you “Brought some of your dearest friends into your real life” and to explain this you said you let them contact you on your Plurk and your Facebook, lol that strikes me as a bit funny. In any case good luck with RL it can be dangerous and very lonely.

By: Senban Babii

Senban Babii — Mon, 13 May 2013 15:20:15 +0000

Well it’s been eighteen months or something, maybe even more, I’ve sort of lost track. Where does the time go? But as I recently had to touch on the issue of virtual worlds again through my studies I ended up thinking about them a little and that got me thinking about The Machine Stops and then this old Herald article about addiction came to mind.

“Vashti was seized with the terrors of direct experience. She shrank back into the room, and the wall closed up again.”

The sad thing is that for many people, SL might be the only window out of the cell of their lives and if you take SL away, the cell remains, the terror of direct experience remains. So maybe we shouldn’t talk in terms of addiction but rather in terms of over-reliance?

Someone should write a Herald article about it all before the machine stops.

By: Merit Coba

Merit Coba — Mon, 11 Mar 2013 13:15:20 +0000

Interesting tidbit: an online adult version is in the make. Favorite historical passtimes like cat flogging and tailbending will be in them for certain. It will also have voice-warping enabled by default: you can purr and mew to your hearts delight.
There will be cat verfication too. They don’t want dog persons in there.

By: hobo kelly

hobo kelly — Fri, 01 Mar 2013 12:34:07 +0000

OMG, sounds like she’s already there: “…It wasn’t long after though that I caught sight of a solid black stray cat named Goon, before he had a chance to run I grabbed him and pulled him inside…”

By: Prok's Game

Prok's Game — Mon, 25 Feb 2013 13:13:03 +0000

Will this game be the thing to break Prok’s addiction to SL?

http://www.wired.co.uk/news/archive/2013-02/25/team-meat-reveal-mew-genics

By: Merit Coba

Merit Coba — Tue, 19 Feb 2013 17:09:45 +0000

Kicking Second Life Addiction – A Life Outside The Grid

Former sl addict Tenshi Vielle confesses up to her addiction and now advises anyone who spents more then two hours a day in sl to log off once in a while and talk to strangers about the weather, after real life wised her up. Find the real world and real friends on facebook and plurk.
Get real – kick the habbit.

It reads like this:
I, Tenshi Vielle, got to sl and felt good because, unlike real life, I was somebody important: I could make and break people. Then real life got in my way so I had to stop. And now anyone who spents more then two hours in sl must be addicted because Tenshi doesn’t play sl anymore and anyone who does must be addicted therefore.
And now she keeps her friends up to date on facebook and plurk..
And Ron Onyett it seems, has simply changed to a new addiction.. now he is addicted to praising God.

Both are sanctimonious: self confessed ex-addicts ostentious claiming to have kicked the habbit and one found real life and one found God. But this isn’t about addiction to second life. . It is about your addiction to yourself.

By: regret

regret — Tue, 05 Feb 2013 13:28:30 +0000

@sad: its so sad that a 21 yr old guy ended his beautiful life because of
this f****** sl , thanks for sharing your sorrows, it may reduce the bad effects to other innocent people, even i am also 23 yr old and created sl before 7 months and wasted lot of my valuable time. but i wanted to keep myself far away from sl and googled my problem , i got this website also and i have taken a firm decision that i never log on to sl again and never want to escape from my rl problems and obstacles instead i can face them and i can solve them ….