The Voyeur — SL Love Triangle
by wendell on 04/06/08 at 4:34 pm
Answers to your questions about love and sex in the metaverse
by Wendell Holmer, virtual advice columnist
Q: My best friend in SL and I are in love. I’m going to the country he lives in this summer, and I’m going to stay with him for a few days. The thing is, he’s engaged in SL to one of my other best friends. I’ve told him that him that, if he is with her in SL, it won’t change our relationship in SL or in RL, but he’s not in love with her anymore. What should I do?
–Tracy
A: I have to assume that your lover’s fiancée doesn’t know about his relationship with you, and you are both keeping her in the dark based on the misguided hope that you can avoid hurting her. If your goal is to keep her as a friend—forget it. When you stole her beau, you lost her friendship. She just doesn’t know it yet.
Your lover is obviously not going to partner with your friend. If he’s looking for a graceful way out, there isn’t one. He needs to tell her plainly that the engagement is off and that he has been seeing you. Once he drops the bomb, you should contact her and tell her sincerely that you are sorry about what happened. Say that you understand if she needs a break from you. If she changes her mind later on and wants to resume the friendship, you will be waiting.
Q: My girlfriend and I are not exclusive, but we have a deal. We don’t date each other’s friends. I met a girl at a professional function a couple of weeks ago. I have been spending a lot of time with her, and I really like her, although we are not lovers. Yesterday, I found out by coincidence that she is a friend of my girlfriend. I suppose I’ll have to give the other girl up. How should I explain it to each of them?
–Biff
A: Why say anything? Are you looking for credit for being noble and keeping your promise? You found out the facts before your friendship with the other girl blossomed into romance. You enjoy her company, so stay friends. If she wants to take things further, explain that you can’t get with her, because of your current relationship. You don’t have to mention the proto-affair to your girlfriend. The disclosure would just make her jealous and create awkwardness with her friend.
Troubled? Is your buff BF, Biff, boffing your BFF? Send your questions to wendellholmer@aol.com.
SPACETARD
Jun 4th, 2008
wow.
this is really pathetic.
Flip Flop
Jun 4th, 2008
You know what’s really funny about this? You contradict yourself in a matter of another question. you tell the first person to be honest, and you infer the second person lie.
You fit SLH very well. Who cares about professionalism.
Dr. Internet
Jun 5th, 2008
Real Sex > Fake Sex
DUH.
Corona
Jun 5th, 2008
re -You know what’s really funny about this? You contradict yourself in a matter of another question. you tell the first person to be honest, and you infer the second person lie.
well perhaps – but surely with these emotive things there are no ‘rules’ – only what is best option/assesment in each individual case
@ Dr. Internet
Jun 5th, 2008
“Real Sex > Fake Sex
DUH.”
THANK you, captain obvious. You make a fine replacement for commander G. Really.
Tell me, when has ANYONE ever said that sexual roleplay was better then the real thing?
I know that you and other bright young minds assume automatically that whomever enjoys virtual RP sex, never ever EVER has had (or has at present) real sex, but how you come to this conclusion, really evades me.
Please, enlighten us, where did you find proof of this? Because I really must talk to the scientists who did that research, because they obviously made a mistake or two. That, or I’m very much an exception to the rule, as I have sex on- as well as offline. (that means both in SL as in RL) (just making sure you understand what I’m saying.)
I like sexual RP on Second Life. I love it. Writing an erotic story with someone else trough this medium is very much fun. Aside from the fake sex I have on SL, I also have a lot of very much very real sex, daily. My boyfriend really, REALLY loves my cock and I sometimes have a hard time to get anything else done, as soon as I get home from work he pounces me and I have his face buried in my crotch. I’m not complaining, but it makes vacuuming the house or doing laundry a bit of a challenge sometimes.
Of course, there is the possibility that you use yourself as a measurement, and then I can imagine you think that noone has ever had any sex in the history of mankind. Understandable, and in your case, very good. You shouldnt have sex before the legal age, that could get you and your partner in trouble with the law. But let me assure you, just because you are a virgin, doesnt mean the rest of the world (in this case, the portion of the world that plays SL) is a virgin as well. Ask for instance your mommy and daddy if they ever had sex, they might suprise you
(hint: the cabbage story and the stork story are not true.)
~Darkfoxx
ThatsFunny
Jun 5th, 2008
Despite all the douchebag BS nonsense that we’ve come to expect on SLH I will say that I laughed pretty hard at this:
“Troubled? Is your buff BF, Biff, boffing your BFF?”
Beyond the laughing tho – SpaceTard you are absolutely right – Pathetic!
anon
Jun 5th, 2008
Darkfoxx: you’re a furry, you’re not allowed to have a real life partner. i don’t think you have a boyfriend. enjoy your hand. alone.
Darkfoxx
Jun 6th, 2008
What was that anon? Sorry, couldnt hear you over the slurping sound my boyfriend makes.
Darkfoxx
Jun 6th, 2008
@ anon:
P.S. Remember what I said about using yourself as a measurement? lol
Refreshing your memory (or in case you didnt actually read it:)
“Of course, there is the possibility that you use yourself as a measurement, and then I can imagine you think that noone has ever had any sex in the history of mankind. Understandable, and in your case, very good. You shouldnt have sex before the legal age, that could get you and your partner in trouble with the law.”