Introducing “Dear Abby”!

by Alphaville Herald on 10/01/05 at 11:56 pm

An etermal part of newspapers and journals around the world has been an advice column. One has finally come to the SecondLife Herald, thanks to the lady known only as “Abby van Helsing.” This first column from Abby covers both the topics of the connection between SecondLife and Real Life relationships and a cross-dressing boyfriend.

Our first reader writes:

Dear Abby,

I have been in an ongoing offline relationship with a man “Jeff” (meaning we do things outside of SecondLife ex: talk on phone, etc) who is “married” in secondlife to another woman “Jessica”. While Jessica is aware of some things that have been exchanged or shared between me and Jeff in game she is not aware of the relationship outside of the game we share. From my understanding Jeff would not want her knowing this since it would already cause more stress in their in game relationship. Jeff is a good man but I try to tell him how I feel even though our relationship is mainly outside of this game, it does effect us in the game, since his wife isn’t too thrilled with our in game relationship as it is (its been mostly just friends but there has been instances where it almost went further in game). I guess my questions is it fair that he is doing this to both us woman?

Sincerely,
In Love in the Real World, In Love in SecondLife

Dear In Love,

My first question would be why aren’t the two of you together in game? Sounds like there is a lot more you are not telling me here but just from you saying he does not want his in game wife to know about your relationship outside of the game is a red flag. This man needs to make some decisions about what he really wants in both worlds. I would suggest you give him the ultimatum its me or her buddy. It is not fair to all three of you. Watch him squirm!

Dear Abby,

My SL boyfriend of two months I will call him Jason, asked if he could borrow some of my clothes from my inventory last week for a drag contest he wanted to attend. Me being the loving girlfriend gladly passed over a few hot outfits and heels to him. A week has gone by, the contest has been long over with (he lost by the way) yet he is still wearing my clothes! I’ve asked him to return them and he says ok in a few, but never follows thru. Then I catch him yesterday with his “male friend” who was also dressed in woman’s clothing, they were “testing out some new poses they purchased”.. Debbie I’m afraid my SL boyfriend is now gay! Please help me what should I do! I really loved him!

Help Me!
Gay and not loving it!

Dear Gay and not loving it,

While just because he is wearing woman’s clothes and posing in them doesn’t necessarily mean he is gay, he could just be getting a kick out of it# But you do need to seriously communicate with your man and ask him why the sudden need to wear womans clothes and if there is more to it. Hopefully he will be honest with you and be upfront about his sexual preferences. If not take him shopping girlfriend!

If you would like to submit your problems to Dear Abby please send them to: dearabbyvanhelsing@yahoo.com. Any questions would be greatly appreciated, but please know that because of space limitations, all answers may not be posted.